We (aRe) liKe yOu!

Everybody around me is getting spliced...  some just had it done... others planning to walk down the aisle soon... and very few still in quest for their soul mates.

No matter what...  I will always have the honor of being the "first one to tie knots" and that is uniform across my different groups of friends.

As time passes by... (being senior most ) its delightful to see each of my friends getting hitched... and its equally fun to see how they choose their life partner.

Here is my gender-based analysis about how each one of us makes this eternal choice before we plug into in nuptial bliss.

What WE girls seek in you guys?

• One who can love us endlessly.
• Who doesn’t smoke or drink.
• Should be earning well.
• Your family can accept us gracefully.
• Should be loyal, decent and honest.

Now men when they think of marriage...  they categorize their preference based on working and non-working woman.

Though most of matrimonial ads say "looking for beautiful, fair, tall, professionally qualified homely/working girl" but such circulars are usually posted by the family... so let’s dig into mind of the guy.

What (YOU) guys look for in a young lady (Employed)?

• She should be very very beautiful... if not in whole of universe... at least be able to fetch stares and "wow" sighs from all relatives and peers.

• Her father should have enough life-savings to make your life perfect paradise after wedding.

• Her family should realize they are actually fortunate to find in you such a good match... and should revere you like god, dedicating sacred bhog (in form of mauney) as a token of courtesy, (regularly) all their life.

• Damsel shouldn’t be egoistic or individualistic.

• Should be soft spoken and graceful.

• Should be able to cook at least 3 meals each day of her wedded life.

• Should have deep interest in household work.

• Should regard children as divine grace and should enthusiastically produce & raise at least two off springs to fulfill the Ideal Happy family (tree) dream.

• Should respect and be caring and self-less towards your (extended) family.

• She should frequently wear sari and suits (only then she can exemplify true Indian beauty).

•  She shouldn’t have past relationships.

• Shouldn't work late in office and be at home before you step in.

• Should be ready to quit job if anytime family-utopia gets adversely affected.

• Shouldn’t have male friends as close buddies.

• Should be able to find new best friends among wives of your gang.

• Shouldn’t prefer going alone in office parties.

• You will appreciate if she calls you everyday to ask if you had your lunch and how soon you will be coming back home.

• She shouldn't drink (even occasionally) or smoke.

• She should be religious & traditional.

• She shouldn’t be too liberal in her ways.

• She should agree (yes boss) with you on almost (anything important) everything.

What (you) guys look for in young lass (non-working)?

• She should be very very beautiful... if not in whole of universe... at least be able to fetch stares and "wow" sighs from all relatives and peers.

• Her father MUST have huge reserves to make your life perfect paradise after wedding.

• Her family should realize they are actually fortunate to find in you such a good match... and should revere you like god, dedicating sacred bhog (in form of mauney) as a token of courtesy, (regularly) all their life.

• Should be able to cook at least 5 meals each day of her wedded life effortlessly.

• Should be an artist when it comes to household work and spend her time creatively at home.

• She should regard children as divine grace and should enthusiastically produce & raise at least two off springs to fulfill the Ideal Happy family (tree) dream.

• Should respect and be caring and self-less towards your family.

• She shouldn't shy away from western outfits (that would prove her all rounder).

• Should be able to find new gossip friends among wives of your gang.

• She shouldn't bad-mouth about anybody in family to you.

• She should be well qualified (professional qualification is even better).

• She should be smart enough to give tough competition to any professional women in office parties or elsewhere.

• She should not make any mistakes while driving the car (nevertheless she doesn’t own a personal vehicle).

• She shouldn't be spendthrift and should value your hard earned money.

• She shouldn't pester you with her calls while you are in office.

• Its critical that both of you bear compatible opinions like kitty parties and beauty parlors are worthless, its absolutely fine if you at times get late partying with your friends, unless an obsession drinking and smoking isn't bad for health, etc.

• She should be an Internet expert and aware of latest happenings.

• She shouldn't watch Ekta Kapoor's TV soaps.

• Should be able to enjoy test cricket and sci-fi movies.

• She should be adventurous and outgoing.

• She should not be over-religious or ritualistic.

• She should maintain good figure and follow newest trends.

• She shouldn't pamper children by spoon feeding.

• You won’t mind if she shows interest in learning new things like interior decoration or similar courses but only once children have grown up.

• She shouldn’t crib to go for outing or holidays.

• She shouldn’t know how to use credit/debit cards.

Gentlemen we admit we are no goddesses… for you are no gods either. I know it tough for you guys to do away all your expectations… but its high time you admit we are not born for u, live for u or can die for u… We love you so much… but how can we be any less self-centered… greedy or ambitious than you. We all built-up same way :D

We can’t be super woman like your mothers but we are powerful enough to be able to live life our way.

Let us together transform marriage from being institution of suppression and compromise to institution of love, independence and choice. Please... please agree with me this time.